From c2b46eb9ee255eb89893a3530650e639e4b7d0aa Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: Jonathan Reed Date: Tue, 11 Feb 2014 01:28:22 -0500 Subject: Clean up apologies section Rephrase in more positive manner. Incorporate suggestions from jhawk so as to clarify exactly what type of apologies we're talking about and why. --- code-of-conduct.txt | 14 +++++++------- 1 file changed, 7 insertions(+), 7 deletions(-) diff --git a/code-of-conduct.txt b/code-of-conduct.txt index c7d98a8..cc8ce14 100644 --- a/code-of-conduct.txt +++ b/code-of-conduct.txt @@ -99,15 +99,15 @@ apologize and move on. If, after reflecting on your comment, you still genuinely do not see any bias in your comment, you can contact a member of the EC to discuss the incident further. -Apologies consist of "I'm sorry" +The most sincere apologies consist of "I'm sorry" An apology should be a sincere expression of sadness for the sadness -of others. When you follow an apology with "...that", "...if", -"..but", you're implying that the other person shares some of the -blame for the incident. Since they're the one who's upset, that's not -true. You may not have intended to make them feel bad, but you did, -and saying "I'm sorry" shows that you regret that they feel bad -(which, hopefully, you do.) +of others. If you violate one of the principles in this document, but +follow your apology with "...that", "...if", "..but", you're implying +that the other person shares some of the blame for the incident. +Since they're the one who's upset, that's not true. You may not have +intended to make them feel bad, but you did, and saying "I'm sorry" +shows that you regret that they feel bad (which, hopefully, you do.) Sometimes, people are tempted to say "I'm sorry, but" (etc.) because they don't want to concede their point in a discussion. But this sort -- cgit v1.2.3